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Why Women Delay Motherhood

Through my blogs I have highlighted the benefits of being an older mum to explain to women why it is perfectly okay to delay motherhood. However, I have not explained reasons why women decide to do this and I believe this will be helpful to shed some light onto this topic. The trend to delay parenthood is happening all around the world and it is here to stay.

Reasons women choose to delay motherhood:

  1. Women want to study longer to receive higher education levels

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Source: www.woman-elanvital.com

  1. Male-dominated fields are not as supportive or understanding of motherhood

Women who work in male-dominated fields do not receive the same support by their work or colleagues. Women can feel pressured into delaying motherhood in order to keep their career.

  1. Values and cultural shifts have led towards more women not feeling “ready” to have a child

The days have ended where women would have kids in their early 20s. Women are aware that having a child is not easy and they don’t want to bring a child into the world unless they know they are ready. Women want to travel and create a stable environment for themselves before having a baby.

  1. Low benefits level, lack of childcare and workplace policies that signal to women that they cannot be both a wage earner and a mother

Depending on the industry and company, an employee benefit level and workplace policy vary. The company I currently work for only gives 2 weeks of paid maternity leave if you have been with the company for less then 3 years. This impacts the ability to have a child and causes women to delay motherhood in order to work long enough to be entitled to a decent amount of maternity leave. Additionally, society has changed they way we work and individuals are constantly changing roles and companies until the find the right job.

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Source: www.sofeminine.co.uk/women-in-focus

  1. Going through multiple partners before settling down and living together before marriage, leads to women delaying motherhood

Why should women be made to feel guilty if they decide to delay motherhood because they want to make sure they are bringing their child into a stable, loving environment? Does this sound so wrong?

  1. Fertility treatments

People are choosing to delay motherhood because they know they can. Birth control options are widely available, causing an increase in women having children later in life. Furthermore, women know that IVF can always be an option as well as egg freezing so they choose not to have a child until they know they are ready.

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Source: www.pregnantinthecity.co.il

If someone wants to have children later in life then it is their choice. Society needs to stop pressuring women into having babies when they are not ready. Stop telling them that their biological clock is ticking as these women has valid reasons for delaying motherhood. Ladies, it is perfectly okay to put your career first, get financially secured or wait until you are ready. Let NO ONE tell you otherwise.

*Note: All reasons have been taken from The Evidence on Advanced Maternal Age and if you would like more information on this issue please visit their website.

The Pramshed

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6 thoughts on “Why Women Delay Motherhood

  1. Such an informative post, I was thinking the same thing the other day. I feel that there is so much more pressure for women to do well in their careers and achieve/crack through the glass ceiling. This is definitely true among my friends in London, compared to my friends who live outside of London. But it’s no ones right to criticise for not having children early. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

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    1. Thanks Claire!
      My thoughts exactly, no women should be criticised for not having children early and I hope this blog post shared some light onto the topic to explain why women make the decision that they do.
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  2. These are all extremely valid points being raised, especially in light of the feminist debate recently posted over on B2B: https://b2bbabiestobusiness.wordpress.com/2016/10/17/the-feminism-debate/
    I’d be interested to hear your opinion as to whether feminism has problematised motherhood by putting choice on a pedestal which shifts women’s priorities? Considering you mention education and, in particular, fertility treatments, isn’t it worth noting the way in which choice plays a poignant role in changing the landscape tat is motherhood? Any thoughts on the pill, also, in engendering choice and fostering delayed motherhood? Lovely post, by the way, very informative and comprehensive!

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    1. Hi B2BBabiestoBusiness,
      Very interesting point you bring up. Being a woman has definitely changed over the years as social norms are altering. It is now common for both men and women to work in order to gain a double income and there has even been situations where the male partner has chosen to be the stay at home dad. And because these social norms are changing, women are able to gain a better education and work for longer, thus delaying motherhood with limited repercussions due to fertility treatments.

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  3. Ooh this is such an interesting topic and very relevant to me. I had my first baby at 38 and my second at 40 (he’s now 6 months old). I’d definitely say I delayed having kids because of the cost of living (we live in London) so we wanted to be a bit more established first – get a house, get married etc. I was probably ready when I was 35. But the main reason we delayed, which no-one ever likes to say (in my experience), is because my husband wasn’t ready and wasn’t even sure he ever would be. It was a tough time in our marriage and we questioned if we really should stay together if we wanted different things. Then a few things happened to make him change his mind, mainly a health scare (mine) and losing his father. This was when we decided to go for it. Anyway, here we are 2 kids later and he’s a complete natural and smitten with them both!

    The funniest thing about turning 40 when I was pregnant with my 2nd baby is that, when I went in at 40 weeks for a sweep, the midwife suddenly realised I wasn’t 39 (as was on my notes). Suddenly the fact I was 40 and my blood pressure was on the high side (isn’t everyone’s at 40 weeks?!) made her want to induce me there and then. Apparently I should have been seen by a consultant from the outset (given my age) and they’d have normally induced me at 38 weeks. Needless to say, I argued my case and I went into labour naturally and had a problem free birth. #fortheloveofblog

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