Through my blogs I have highlighted the benefits of being an older mum to explain to women why it is perfectly okay to delay motherhood. However, I have not explained reasons why women decide to do this and I believe this will be helpful to shed some light onto this topic. The trend to delay parenthood is happening all around the world and it is here to stay.
Reasons women choose to delay motherhood:
- Women want to study longer to receive higher education levels
- Male-dominated fields are not as supportive or understanding of motherhood
Women who work in male-dominated fields do not receive the same support by their work or colleagues. Women can feel pressured into delaying motherhood in order to keep their career.
- Values and cultural shifts have led towards more women not feeling “ready” to have a child
The days have ended where women would have kids in their early 20s. Women are aware that having a child is not easy and they don’t want to bring a child into the world unless they know they are ready. Women want to travel and create a stable environment for themselves before having a baby.
- Low benefits level, lack of childcare and workplace policies that signal to women that they cannot be both a wage earner and a mother
Depending on the industry and company, an employee benefit level and workplace policy vary. The company I currently work for only gives 2 weeks of paid maternity leave if you have been with the company for less then 3 years. This impacts the ability to have a child and causes women to delay motherhood in order to work long enough to be entitled to a decent amount of maternity leave. Additionally, society has changed they way we work and individuals are constantly changing roles and companies until the find the right job.
- Going through multiple partners before settling down and living together before marriage, leads to women delaying motherhood
Why should women be made to feel guilty if they decide to delay motherhood because they want to make sure they are bringing their child into a stable, loving environment? Does this sound so wrong?
- Fertility treatments
People are choosing to delay motherhood because they know they can. Birth control options are widely available, causing an increase in women having children later in life. Furthermore, women know that IVF can always be an option as well as egg freezing so they choose not to have a child until they know they are ready.
If someone wants to have children later in life then it is their choice. Society needs to stop pressuring women into having babies when they are not ready. Stop telling them that their biological clock is ticking as these women has valid reasons for delaying motherhood. Ladies, it is perfectly okay to put your career first, get financially secured or wait until you are ready. Let NO ONE tell you otherwise.
*Note: All reasons have been taken from The Evidence on Advanced Maternal Age and if you would like more information on this issue please visit their website.